Comparison is not only the thief of joy but so much more
So let’s talk about how not only does comparison rob you of joy, it robs you of all sorts of other things too!! In my humble opinion I believe every woman, if not every individual is plagued to some degree with this issue! Let’s face it, our culture thrives on getting us to want more, be more, do more and so we’re constantly in this rat race to be the best. But let’s pause for a moment and challenge this idea. Why race? Why compare? I’ll be the first to admit I have a good dose of competitiveness in me, but lately God is wielding this in me, helping me to hone this drive and seek HIS perspective on running the race and not looking to the left or right. Starting a new business with literally tens of thousands of women all relatively new to their LuLaRoe business too since the company’s only been around 3 ½ years, you can get stuck on the internet stalking consultants for hours, days, months! Let’s not lose ourselves doing this! Lately here are some of the things God is gently reminding me when I start to compare.
Comparison robs me of PEACE.
I start fretting and losing that sense of sureness in God’s purpose, plan and design for what He’s called me to do. I start worrying. All sorts of ridiculous worries run through my head making me doubt why someone would like me, be loyal to me, host with me, join my team. The thoughts just keep picking up speed and then I’m a big ‘ol ball of anxiety and depression all wrapped up with a nice dose of insecurity. So, let’s talk about that issue too.
Comparison robs me of CONFIDENCE.
All these issues go hand in hand. But let’s be real, even walking into the gym your confidence can start to dwindle if you start looking around and sizing myself yourself up to the girls in the room. Even if I walked in feeling strong and beautiful if there’s someone beside me who I PERCEIVE to be stronger, more beautiful, you name it, my confidence deteriorates. And it’s interesting to me to think that the person next to me is fighting the same battle, right?? She may even be looking at ME, comparing and wishing she was more like me, so let’s stop this comparing ourselves to each other all the time. It pulls us each away from living our own journey, staying our own course, being confident in what our life’s purpose is instead of getting sidelined in the petty things we compare-all the ridiculous material things like my body shape, size, wealth, popularity. These things will be gone one day. Let’s not waste our time. Which leads me to the next issue.
Comparison robs me of PRODUCTIVITY.
Can I even count up the time I’ve spent looking into others’ lives comparing mine to theirs? I don’t even want to think about it. I mean, I’m not CONSCIOUSLY sitting there comparing myself. Well, maybe sometimes….but this is quite the slippery slope, huh?? One minute you’re oohing and ahhing over her sweet kids and quickly this deteriorates to thoughts of comparison, like “Am I as good of a mom as her; she’s doing all sorts of crafty, creative things with her kids, and she’s got them well dressed and well behaved in public.” Social media is the worst at promoting this comparison game and sucking any sort of productive time in a day I might have if I’m not intentionally and consciously spending my time on facebook, instagram, etc. carefully! It’s easy to post all the cutesy, happy highlights of our lives, but let’s be real, even those smiling faces are caught in squabbles and ugly moments even in those Kodak moments that get plastered all over social media. Don’t tell me you haven’t barked at your kids and had ugly meltdowns on the same day you’re posting about your fantastic family vacation with all these wonderful memories. We just don’t take pictures of those moments or talk about them like we do all the fun and entertaining things we’re doing. I’m not being a Debbie downer here ladies, just trying to put some perspective into how our brain plays tricks on us making us think that all we see is all there is to a person’s life. Nope. Life has it’s ugly along with the beautiful, let’s be real. We’re all broken, sinful, flawed people, so let’s not get hung up on Susie Q’s beautiful life, deal? Cause she’s got her own mess in there somewhere, I promise!
Comparison robs me of PURPOSE and INTENTIONALITY.
It’s so easy to get busy looking into the lives of every one around us I can quickly find myself trying to make my life fit into theirs. Let me clarify. God’s got a plan, a purpose for YOU. In my opinion it’s specific and if we are intensely purposeful in staying tuned into HIM and how He wants to direct each and every moment of every day, we stay aligned with that plan for our lives. The problem is when we start looking to the left and right we start filling in other ideas and making attempts to keep up with the people around us, which derails us on our journey. Trying what they’re trying, doing what they’re doing…all of a sudden I’ve lost sight of God’s leading and His path for ME!
These things are easier said than done. I get it. I’m not anywhere near being perfect in these areas, but in this new journey I’m acutely aware of how Satan uses comparison to derail and distract me and rob me of all the blessing in store for me. If I just stay on MY straight and narrow and not worry about anyone else’s my life definitely flows easier. I pray you find peace, joy and contentment on YOUR straight and narrow. Let’s help each other stay our individual course. To read more about my journey click here. To learn more about my latest endeavor that has tried me in staying the course and not worry about what’s on my left or right, click here. And as always, THANK YOU for subscribing to my blog here! Blessings my friends!